i hate my husband because of his mother

Stories of cheating husbands or abusive wives became a staple of your childhood. However, it doesnt always work like that. That is pretty much human decency to help your parents out as they age and cant handle everything themselves. But now I get it- Husband promised his mother to take care of her, like, physically, not just help out and such. Good luck. Why do I feel like my husband hates me? When we met and started dating in 2016, I was still Christian, and he was strict about keeping our relationship secret from his family. makes you sound super petty and ridiculous. to change some behaviors, it is better to accept that his flaws will always be part of him. Well, you need to stop that. It could be and really, should be, in your husbands case finding adequate home care or a living environment where his mother will get the physical and medical attention she obviously needs. Sorry, but is the MIL is that bad off, she belongs in a place where she can be looked after 24/7 and there senior citizen apartments that have such care that comes with them. She cant be left alone with a baby, not even holding a baby while the parent walks into the next room. How Did You Decide Whether to Have Another Baby? I read it too quickly the first time and thought you wrote Not that I think you have experienced instead of not that I think you have to have experienced It changed the whole tone. I am always kind and civil and I do ask my husband how she is from time to time but I do not contact her in any way. Sell the property if necessary to get out of the situation. ele4phant Not My Promise. Last night I screamed in frustration and agony from the stupidity of the argument and the overwhelming hurt and loneliness of my feelings. Check the following ways to stop hating your husband: The first step to stopping hating your husband is to know why. Its one thing to say Look, I see youre living in very difficult circumstances, and that the stress of that is probably clouding your judgement. For a few weeks or months. My mom gave me a teaspoon of sugar for hiccups, and I certainly did not have a sugar addiction, in fact, I didnt like overly sweet things or soda or icing when I was a kid. 3. something random What is a Revocable Living Trust for a Married Couple? I think it is important the letter writer is honest with herself and her husband about this before they commit to buying a house. Maybe she needs a more active social life. No one had medical training either so that made it extra difficult. All Im saying, a lot of this responses are piling on the LW and telling her to have sympathy for her MIL (which is true, she needs to find that and take on a more compassionate view of the situation) while at the same time being pretty unsympathetic to what the LW is going through. Of course its not a good idea to leave knives sitting out, especially with a child in the home but even if she ran right into the blade of a loose knife, it would have just slid over or gotten knocked off the counter. When spouses dont respect each other, they stop being responsible. You probably thought everything would be rosy forever, but thats not true. I think leaving when she no longer needs the financial help from the MIL and washing her hands of it just makes her seem crappy. The husband is a coward for not making his wife and kids a priority and the MIL is a mentally ill selfish bitch for expecting everyones life to stop and care for her 24/7. Being married doesnt mean you wont find others attractive. June 18, 2015, 10:40 am. Eventually, a few years later, they had to put her into a nursing home. It sounds like the husband/son is dropping the ball and not fulfilling his promises to either party. Does he mean that he *must* live with her? Typical lovers arent just intimate with each other; they are also best friends. And I still think the LW is being a jerk. Work on building a positive relationship and focusing on the good . How Do I Make My Partner Realize Their Responsibilities? Love is what we expect in a marriage, so a dislike for our spouse makes us anxious and stressed. Tell her to reframe, tell her not to welsh on her MIL, tell her its the price she pays for being family and getting a free house, but why is it so wrong to do it with with a different tone? I for one would be going nuts if I were in this situation. The suddenly MIL has the money clear out of the blue to help with finances after they buy a house when she clearly didnt have the money to do so in her own place? My grandma had a severe stroke when I was about 3 years old, and my dads family (all 11 siblings) took turns taking care of her in my grandparents farmhouse. You can completely remove all of the details of the living situation from this letter and theres one thing that still sticks out to me. These differences tend to clash when you dont compromise and make individuals incompatible. But when my husband made the promise to always care for his mother, he wasnt married, didnt have a step-child or a brand new baby on the way. You could find a place nearby so your husband could still go over regularly. I agree compassion is often the best tool when dealing with difficult people. They often have tons of options for activities and just getting out may help her mental and emotional well being. She didnt know what she was signing up for. Dear Wendy As much as love brings you together, know that you will face some challenges, such as financial constraints, housing problems, issues about children, etc. She doesnt live with us anymore and I never reach out to her. Your spouse had children before he or she met you. ChickenNugget Tolerating what sounds like abusive behaviour from his mother is another. So, get your own place. Do what you can to make it easier for all of you, help out, and chill. What Lies Do to a Marriage? If hes trying his best to make you happy, the least you can do is to appreciate him. However, you will stop hating your husband when you acknowledge your role in the situation. I dunno. Speaking of whichwho among you plans to hold your adult child to a promise made when they were younger and living a different situation? . * Im literally days away from my due date and my blood pressure has been going up. Its impossible to prepare families for what dealing with a R Hemisphere stroke patient will be like and Ive seen my fair share of long term marriages fall apart when once spouse has this type of stroke. something random June 18, 2015, 8:40 am. Plus, she has unhealthy hygiene (like, she only bathes once a week and sometimes does not wash her hands before putting them in shared food like chips or shredded cheese), and she lets her dog, who stays cooped up in her room all day, use puppy pads that she keeps until either my husband and I complain about the smell. Elderly people often lose the capacity to properly care for themselves, and if she was already mentally ill, or even eccentric, Im sure the issue is exacerbated. Its really not that hard. Giving care is one thing. Finally, you need get your own place and move out of your MILs house. Sell my house Quickly; SELL YOUR HOME FAST; i hate my husband because of his mother. I understand that you dont feel comfortable allowing her to care for your children. will crumble because living together often shows us their new traits. Ultimately, your husband has to decide to change. This is likely how she will always be, and she will likely require heavy amounts of care for the rest of her life. Its a great setup but hard to get into, no? You know- where folks can get an apartment-type setup, but they can get the level of help they need- be it someone to clean once a week or day or to help them get to appointments or take meds or whatever. We were on the same page. Dont be so damn condescending just because you dont believe in how she parented 30 years ago or whenever. The challenge to my marriage. Since this person's entire focus is on himself, he is likely to have poor communication skills. You essentially resent your MIL for being elderly. If your husband is not able to be the caretaker for both the mother and the kids, is there anyone else in the family who can help out? Our first responsibility is ALWAYS to our minor children. My story : . I bet if you come home with legal divorce documents and property settlement forms, he'll figure out how to deal with his mother. I Hate My Husband For Cheating on Me - Tips and Advice That May Help. If you really can't get on with their family and are no longer on speaking terms, allow your partner to continue their relationship with them on. It wont make him change, and guess what? We made long-term goals together like engagement, marriage, kids, the whole 9. Im just saying the tone at which people are responding to the LW is off. Other than that she needs care and if you could afford a nursing home that could be an option but lots of nursing homes cost $4000 per month so not very affordable for the average family. So Im glad you are able to access some of that sympathy for the letter writer. . Im sorry. Have you considered getting in home care, getting her into assisted living, ect. And even my husband loves having her nearby. Just because he couldn't help it, it doesn't mean you are not angry that he had a stroke . 7. Its another thing to tell her shes a jerk and entitled. Learn what to do when you dont like your husband in the following: 13 Tips on What to Do if You Dislike Your Spouse, ? June 18, 2015, 11:21 am. Now Im not reeling from yesterdays letter (I didnt have time) but as far as entitlement goes its one thing to think youve made an arrangement that is mutually beneficial for everyone involved, its another to realize youve signed on to be the tenet and care-taker for the landlord from hell for the next few decades. It sounds like the MIL is going to need all of her own money so that she can be taken care of. You dont get to complain about the free place youve been crashing in for however many months, no matter how much deep cleaning you had to do to make it livable. And I would assume husband had an OK upbringing, hence the promise to always look after mother. ele4phant, Im with you. June 18, 2015, 12:13 pm. However, after marriage, things change: partners recognize each other better, including advantages and disadvantages. An experienced therapist will offer you strategic ways to communicate with your spouse. Wouldnt you want the same or is everything supposed to benefit you in some way? If she needs to change her living situation, hopefully her and her husband will find a way to live on what they can afford. Doing some of it yourself (ie: you know the dog potty pads are a problem, so be proactive and take care of it). But relationships go both ways, and I think all parties need to give a little. I have mentioned that I love living now? Of course people are going to judge. But I do agree that the LW needs to reframe how she sees this. honeybeenicki Now, my husband has medically retired from the Army and I am a full-time student and mom. The long-estranged FILs statement that the sons promise is the LWs promise is utter horseshit. Also, I saw my mom naked all the time. Almost nobody is going to show compassion to a person who isnt showing any to an elderly woman who is giving her and her children a free home. Once the wife tables her grievances and apologizes, the couple goes right back to loving each other. Not that I think you have to have experienced giving care to a difficult elderly/disabled person to comment on this, but I have. And it is very easy to assume one can imagine what it takes to care for someone. Id say, yeah, she needs to run like hell and find her own place before she burns the place down cause shes walked off and left the stove on with food cooking on it. Giving these up takes away some of the excitement from your relationship. Of course this is family (a parent! June 18, 2015, 2:01 pm. For example, a clumsy husband scatters the room every chance he gets can create stress. It wasnt the red wedding. I have a feeling your tune would be very different. . Eh, somebody would probably be far less stressed out (and hopefully much less bitchy) had she NOT decided to have yet another baby while both she and her husband are, apparently unemployed, broke, oh, and uh, homeless. My point: not all families or bonds are the same.) Express your feelings without sugar-coating, 10 Effective Communication Skills in Relationships for Healthy Marriages, If you cant get past why you hate your husband so much, it may be time for you to seek the help of a. . June 18, 2015, 9:45 am. You might hate your husband when he does something you dont like. something random It is absolutely wrong to leave her to her fate. June 18, 2015, 10:49 am, honeybeenicki That one could be real, it almost happened to me once (not while I was pregnant). She certainly isn't. But she goes after him constantly, every conversation and every visit. Oh, I have no doubt shes overwhelmed. It is his first responsibility to see to the needs of his wife and children, including the stepchild. She spent a good 10-11 years there and couldnt talk, write, speakI mean, I never had a full conversation with her. I wouldnt exactly be thrilled to live under those conditions either. My Sisters and I Are Fighting Over My (Living) Mothers Money. I ask in passing how shes doing and Im always kind when we visit but its not my responsibility to check in on her just because I have a vagina. Are you stressed, frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused? Understanding why you feel resentment in your marriage is the first step to understanding the full spectrum of emotions you harbor and deciding where your. Raccoon eyes Go right back to when you used to love your husband. RedRoverRedRover My parents neglected my emotional needs consistently in favour of my more challenging sister. Is there any money that can be spent on outsourcing care for the mother? It could be visiting her frequently and driving her to appointments, as he/you have been doing, and taking her out for recreational activities (as opposed to just letting her basically rot in her own filth in her bedroom all day and night). I have to agree with all of the people who chimed in about mother sounding like a very typical right hemisphere stroke patient. TaraMonster What Happens When There Is Lack of Attention in Relationship? But now honey under a year is considered a big no-no because of tiny spores which can be life-threatening. Making you his main priority and breaking away from his family is, in the end, his decision. It sounds like she is/will be a loving grandparent who just needs boundaries. These people, who dont seem to give a shit about aging, ailing parents, are the worst! Aubrey Ray The best El Paso TX information website. My grandmother used to use honey with her infants and advised me to do it, too. As a result, you begin to project your fears on your husband and marriage. June 18, 2015, 10:57 am. Was she not in touch with the woman? Statements like, How do you feel these days, can open up conversation and strengthen the bond between partners. Not sure what youre talking about. Working with people in this condition is taxing, so I really cant imagine living with them. The Problem: As a kid, you were probably exposed to poor relationships. Ok. No problem. 2. Is that right? totally abandon her) as soon as you no longer need what shes been giving. It does make me think the FIL has a point about her exaggerating safety issues as an excuse to try to get what she wants. I was also aware that his mother and father split when my husband was around 7 because his mom cheated on him. LW, presumably your husband was fulfilling his promise sufficiently to take care of his mother before you all moved in with her so what steps can you take to get back to that status quo? She needs professional care. Now that you are married, you find it challenging to deal with these issues. An experienced therapist will offer you strategic ways to communicate with your spouse. She always signed my birthday cards, but it wasnt legible because she couldnt write. Nobody has said that she has an easy life, all of us understood she is having a hard time, but, I dont know, just her tone and the way she talks about the woman whos helped her and plans to ditch her, makes me feel like she is really entitled. Oh, come on. Diablo, I always enjoy your comments, the ones meant in jest and the ones grounded in your own experience(s). Her husband had cheated and understandably so, the wife was filled with rage and feelings of hatred. You should be more concerned when you frequently hate things about your husband. Taken time to learn what the MILs issues really were and what kind of care she needed. You might say, I hate my husband, because he has hurt you a lot in the past. Also, yeah it totally sucks that MIL had a stroke but having compassion doesnt mean that LW has to subject herself or her children to abuse and unsanitary living conditions. I kept thinking what if you need to be taken care of someday by your husband? Its a daunting prospect to consider and I dont blame the letter writer for wanting out (on a purely emotional level). You can also take the advice of many marriage counselors and therapists if you need more enlightenment. What do I mean? Being married doesnt mean you wont find others attractive. Shes the one who asked whether she was wrong for asking her husband to break his promise to care for his mother after they are done needing her free place to live in, and, sorry, but the answer is yeah. Everyone has a unique personality encompassing behavior, core values, cultural beliefs, and morals. But realistically, it sounds like it was just that you lived separately and helped her out less? And yes, some of the LWs examples, like the knife left out on the counter, seem to be overly dramatic. You might hate your husband because of the wrong ideas from dysfunctional relationship beliefs that you have unconsciously absorbed from your environment. Hes feeding her a line. Also. The fact that Mom is providing the roof currently does not give her carte blanche for any and all bad behaviour. Is it normal to hate your husband? Meanwhile, all she does is live and eat in her room, watch TV all day and night, and feed her poop-eating dog from her mouth or with the utensil shes also using. I think it would be an act of compassion to carefully consider that other people may have their own reasons for having a completely different set of expectations for themselves regarding their parents/in-laws besides just being a bad son or daughter that doesnt care about a helpless elder. He doesn't work on the relationship. My grandma also told me she used to supplement her infants with goats milk because of low supply. For instance, you can initiate revisiting where you first met each other or go on a vacation to a new place. Should I Tell My Boyfriend About My Debt?. Whenever she asks us to do something she always says, Whenever you get the chance, doesnt have to be right now. Yet, if the request isnt fulfilled shortly after, she gets pissy. You may have your husband because there are underlying differences you refused to settle. bricklink greef karga. He never has time for you (even when he's home). I know what you mean, however that happens because of her tone in the letter. He's "nice" and "helpful.". Some women got attracted to their husbands because of their looks and physical attribute. something random No marriage is perfect as everyone is only trying their best to make it work. honeybeenicki Someone left the knife on the counter with the blade sticking out. Nicole Now that she knows this about herself and also knows caring for her ailing mother-in-law is an unbreakable condition for her marriage, she will hopefully look for solutions that work for everyone. Only in the last couple years, since she has formally disowned me and my nice sister for no good reason and stopped speaking to us entirely, have they gotten her to accept any kind of therapy, and they have run through a number of therapists. Soooo I think that Husband promised to step in and take care of his mother. Learn what to do when you dont like your husband in the following: Knowing what to do when you hate your husband can save your marriage time. Just really need to rant. And you really need to discuss with your husband how he can fulfill his promise to take care of his mother without sacrificing your nuclear familys safety and comfort. "I Hate that My Husband Takes Care of His Mother" In the beginning, I absolutely adored my MIL and had no worries about the promise my husband had made (long before I knew him) to always take care of her because she had a stroke several years earlier. The home doesnt sound like a good place for a baby, especially once it is mobile. June 18, 2015, 10:22 am. Same advice as to what she should do, but different tone. All rights reserved. BLOG. Accepting that fact will save you from getting worried. Like I was accusing her of being just mean and ugly to my daughter. Would she try to pick up the baby while it was sleeping? I like Wendys suggestion that the letter writer finds a way to honor her obligation to her mother in law in way that doesnt dry her out from resentment year after year. Somewhere along the way, this influenced you to have a dysfunctional view on relationships. Hey MIL, I am a little concerned because of your health problems about the safety of the baby, but Id love if youd help with XYZ when you can and if you want to. He's had the stroke and it's you who is feeling and expressing what you call "bad feelings". 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How come you suddenly dislike your husband or slowly hating my husband? Well how nice of you to presume to know that about me. I wouldnt either (especially with her issues with falls and a newborn). I think this letter writer is giving off the impression of being a bit self-centered and entitled and it might be helpful to point this out to her. Research on narcissistic personality disorder would somewhat support this strategy. With your spouse, you need to be more intentional. We have been together for about 13 years, married for 3. We expect it to be a perfect partnership between two individuals in love who are ready to build a home. Some disadvantages, including bad habits, can become more noticeable and annoying by time. What does it mean to. Thankfully, this article has done a great job highlighting common reasons wives hate their husbands and what they can do. Get her somewhere with regular care or take care of her, just quit using her for her money. You might hate your husband because he prioritizes only himself. June 18, 2015, 9:38 am, I like Wendys response. So maybe instead of being a jerk shes ill-prepared and panicked. It was her idea to live with her MIL because she needed her, and know that she wont she just plans to leave her to her fate, and make her husband leave her too. If she does in fact have mental health issues, whether or not they are consequent to the stroke, they should be assessed and addressed appropriately, but that doesnt excuse her demanding and entitled behaviour either. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action. However, you should check yourself when you start, The Significance and Importance of Forgiveness in a Marriage, We think they have failed and hate them when they dont meet our. We were always made responsible if our youngest sister got angry or had a tantrum. Duplex is a great idea. I *DO* appreciate how difficult that has to be for the LW, and I can empathize with that frustration. No matter how busy life is, spouses should dedicate time to each other. She wrote: " I can truly and honestly say that I hate my husband because of his cheating. It could be taking her to get her hair done, helping her clean up after her dog, doing yard work for her, etc. June 18, 2015, 10:02 am. Youll need to come up for a plan for the next ten years about how youll plan to continue to help your mother in law with her care, and what your game plan is as a family. I hate my husband because of his father I disliked my in-laws before marrying my husband, since then his selfish father has become even more difficult, making snide comments on. Addie Pray They are inseparable. But in a marriage, couples may often feel like they hate each other. Because if so, wasnt she stewing in her own filth then too? This is particularly if he cannot seem to function without his mother. Whether you choose to keep him with his new found spine, is up to you. Love is more enjoyable when the two partners are on the same page. I've always worked full time and he's only ever worked 15 to 20 hours. Even life is full of ups and downs. Yes she had a free place to live, but how free was it considering they payed the bills, bought the groceries and more. For what we have (3 bedrooms, 1 bath on one side, 2 bedrooms, 1 bath on the other and a usable but not completely finished basement on both sides that are the size of the upstairs) we would have paid at least twice as much for a house with the same number of rooms (or even fewer). Well, you need to embrace both the good and the bad. Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. How come you suddenly dislike your husband because of his mother and kind! Together like engagement, marriage, kids, the whole 9 along the way, this influenced you have. 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